Gandhi and Freedom - The factors to reevaluate

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I have gone through different sources and worked out on “Karam Chand Gandhi and his journey to 1950”, “British empire and history – including the Second World War”. The sources include Google, blogs, discovery channel, BBC – British history and other source of their history. And here is what I got to know about our independence and role of respective leaders of India and rest of the world.

I must start with a statement – “we must not forget the role of the revolutionaries in the freedom movement of India has called for a re-examination of the role of Mahatma Gandhi and his Satyagraha.”

Satyagraha means non-co-operation and civil resistance, are nothing but new name for the law of suffering. Let’s watch what it did:

Satyagraha 1

Gandhi started his Satyagraha from South Africa when he been there to serve Gujrati merchants as barrister and to entertain Europeans in 1890s. He finally founded the Natal Indian Congress organization for rich and the empire loyalists.

Gandhi visited India couple of times to get the support from Indian politicians / leaders to redress Indians in South Africa. In 1901-02, he met G K Gokhale, a loyalist to the British. Gokhle was also against any opposition to Britishers and the idea of the freedom movement by Lal, Bal, Pal (Lala Lajpat Rai, Lokmanya Tilak and Vipin Chand Pal). Gandhi joined Gokhale as an empire loyalist camp within congress. It was his first political movement.

Gandhi then went back to South Africa and started his first so called Satyagraha by dramatically burning the passes. These passes were in law for the Asians, Arabs etc. to carry it with them and that was not a big issue as in most of the countries even today, a foreigner has to carry such document anyway. Gandhi was doing all this stating “for the honor of the motherland”, but which motherland – it was not specified by him. Burning the passes and this Satyagraha did not help Indians but it was negative impact on them. They were rounded up, beaten, Jailed and deported in many cases.

When General Smut met Gandhi, it was made very clear to stop immigration of Indians to SA. Passes were withdrawn. Loads of restrictions applied and finally a legal racial discrimination started as a result of the movement. So it was a failure of Gandhi there in SA but still English Language media propagate him as a winner against the racist govt of British origin for whom Gandhi had worked as a ‘ward assistance’ in the war against the Dutch settlers in SA. Gandhi had no contact with the Africans and their liberal movement but he helped white minority to rule in SA through such divisive segregationist policies. They enforced racial segregation and differential policies, no matter what Satyagraha says, and attempted to degrade Indians against Africans by giving the status as coolies.

Gandhi was back to Indian in 1914 as nothing was left for him in SA. His impact had no significant in African movement. African Nation Congress was not at all influenced with Gandhi’s Satyagraha but in-fact was strongly influenced with the neighbors (Mozambiqueand Angola) who were strongly supported by the Soviet Union with finance and being armed. In 1964, Nelson Mandela also pointed out that he and his mates have decided to organize underground and armed resistance against the govt (So No PEACE).

Returning to India in 1914, Gandhi served twice for the British in First World War in France and then to in Mesopotamia because he had convinced himself that he owed the empire that sacrifice in return for its military protection (stated in Martin Green, Gandhi: Voice of a New Age Revolutionary).

Satyagraha 2

With an extraordinary good fortune, Gandhi in an extraordinary political coup was elected himself (its English they wanted him there) as the president of the All-India Home Rule League after the deaths of Tilak by September 1920. He steered a resolution as Non-Cooperation to preserve the Khilafat bypassing the freedom movement in the Congress session in Calcutta. Later all the important leaders of the Congress, Bipin Pal, Surendranath Banerjee, Ajit Singh were either expelled or neutralized by Gandhi. Tilak had gathered huge money about Rs.10 lakhs, to finance his freedom movement and Gandhi used that up to please the followers of Turkish Khalifa, who was defied by the Muslims in the Turkish occupied Arabia, Iran, Iraq, Syria and in Turkey itself by the reforming leader Kamal Attaturk. Gandhi and the Muslim leaders of India were ignorant about these political developments in the Middle East.

This agitation was initiated by Khilafat leadership and not by Congress. As usual, Gandhi pick those issues without consulting the other leaders (Nathuram Godse expressed his anger on such decisions and that happened at times) and started his programm of peaceful non co-operation with the British included boycotts of British goods and institutions to protect the Turkish Sultan, leading to arrests of thousands of the people for defying British laws. This was nothing to do with Freedom movement of India.

The Khilafat movement went wrong and Muslims restored a massive violence to slaughter the Hindus in Kerala and Mysore. Gandhi called off the Khilafat movement after the Chauri Chaura violence without even consulting his Muslim allies. Gandhi’s decision created deep confusion in Congress circles. 

Subhas Chandra Bose wrote: To sound the order of retreat just when public enthusiasm was reaching the boiling point was nothing short of a national disaster. The principal lieutenants of the Mahatma, Deshbandhu Das, Pandit Motilal Nehru and Lala Lajpat Rai, who were all in prison, shared the popular resentment. I was with the Deshbandu at the time, and I could see that he was beside himself with anger and sorrow.(Quoted from Indian Struggle by Subhas Chandra Bose)

The jailed leaders sent from prison, long and indignant letters to Gandhi protesting at his decision to which Gandhi replied that men in prison were civilly dead and had no claim to any say in policy. In March 1922, Gandhi was sentenced to six years imprisonment. He was released after two years, but by then the political landscape had changed dramatically. Bose, who resigned from ICS in 1921, was now in his activities. Also the Congress Party had split and Hindu-Muslim unity had disintegrated. Sri Aurobindo said: When Gandhi’s movement was started, I said that this movement would lead either to a fiasco or to great confusion. And I see no reason to change my opinion. Only I would like to add that it has led to both.

Satyagraha 3

Gandhi was loosing the hold on Congress for sometime… so something he was looking for to take himself out of the wardrobe. He found a day in Dec 1928 during Culcutta Congress where he demanded dominion (ruling and controlling) status for India while Srinivas Iyenger, Subhas Bose and other leaders were looking for complete freedom. Gandhi never looked for complete freedom and so Iyenger that time and later, same reasons, Bose in 1939 with other 200 leaders were expelled from Congress. Everyone who had approaching a strong hold for any movement where Gandhi is absent, was expelled at times. Gandhi was always backed by British as they had no trouble handling him.

In March 1930, Dandi yatra launched to break the law (I would say to be in lime light) and to make own salt while it was symbolic for Indians as they never used to make salt in anyway. This movement came to be known as Civil Disobedience Movement. Within a few weeks about a hundred thousand men and women, thinking mistakenly that it was the beginning of the freedom movement, were in jail, throwing mighty machinery of the British Government out of gear. Gandhi was arrested in May 1930. This could be right time to fight as it was spread countrywide and people were out on the road for freedom BUT Gandhi withdrew his name from the movement and sacrifice of the people was in vain. Why that movement happened? The end result was – British never withdraw tax on salt.

Then Gandhi-Irwin pact came in picture with end of the Congress's civil disobedience. There were some points agreed by British Govt but on what cost – 23^rd March 1931. This had to happen only if Govt agrees on his terms. None of them were to get freedom. One of them was - Gandhi been to London to represent INC but that could not happen and he came back to India empty handed and decided to go for civil disobedience again in 1932. The viceroy Lord Willingdon outlawed Congress and due to other circumstances, Gandhi completely suspended it in 1934. Thus, Gandhi’s third Satyagraha also could not achieve anything much because Gandhi as usual refused to continue it. That was Gandhi¹s last and the only Satyagraha as a mass political movement for the freedom movement.

While this all going, Bose was all set to scrap the INC as he thought its history and he need a full fledge party with 10 clear and strong points to rule and rebuild India with full freedom. Why he was so sure to be free from British rule? He was building a base to bring people with him for this movement. Nehru called him Fascism and Nazi, but for the betterment of India, Bose was happy to be like that as he was clear with his movements and in thoughts that British enemies are Indian friends. Throughout his political career, India's liberation from British rule remained Bose's foremost political goal; indeed, it was a lifelong obsession. As he explained in his most important work, The Indian Struggle, the political party he envisioned "will stand for the complete political and economic liberation of the Indian people”. He was forced to resign from INC in 1939 as Gandhi didn’t like his fame.

Quit India movement (Not a Satyagraha – read the definition at top please)

Andman and Nikobar was liberated by Japanese in 1942 and Bose hoisted Indian flag there. Free India government in exile or Azad Hind Government was recognized by the Soviet Union, Japan, Germany, Italy, Hungary, and Imperial China. Indian national army and Imperial Japanese army was on the doorstep of the British India. Gandhi refused to be outsmarted by Netaji and started his last mass movement, which was not a Satyagraha. This all can be easily learnt from the historic channels broadcasting the truth of World War 2. Hitler was making the trouble in Europe, Japanes shook hands with Bose coming close to India routing from Burma. The Second WW was a terrible experience for British on the economic conditions too. Indians in the British army were now with Bose.

In a radio address broadcast from Berlin on March 1, 1943, Bose exclaimed that Britain's demise was near, and predicted that it would be “India's privilege to end that Satanic Empire.” The fundamental principle of his foreign policy, Bose declared in a May 1945 speech in Bangkok, is that "Britain's enemy is India's friend."

Gandhi was loosing the pride again so planned Quit India Movement in 1942 but no plan to execute it. Congress passed resolution with the help of UN to end the British Rule in India. British were already in a bad shape in Europe so they have to gain the power back at home instead. Next day the resolution was passed, all congress leaders were arrested including Gandhi and that provoked the violent demonstration which was not a Satyagraha of-course.British still not ready to accept all this and they used full force to end this and they succeeded. As usual Gandhi already withdrew himself from that movement within a few days after it has started. All the Satyagraha were failed inclusive this because of mistakes and non wide leadership plan. People were mistaken as they thought these all are freedom movements but got nothing in the end.

In other occasions, Gandhi fasted for Ahmadabad Mill to bring mill owners to be responsible for any death in the mill, they compromised but went back to their initial thoughts once they found the situation back to normal. Same happened in Africa. Once he is back, the situations worsen for the Indians. – Sri Aurobindo.

Since 1942, Gandhi was busy making plans to partition India to create Pakistan, the idea of which Gandhi has accepted even in 1940, according to both B.R.Ambedkar and Sri Aurobindo. Nehru and Patel as representative of Gandhi were in regular consultations with the Vice-Roy of India on how best to help the British war efforts against Japan and the Azad Hind Fauz. Freedom movement was not in their mind.

Indian soldiers of the Royal Indian Navy have started their revolt at Bombay harbour on 18 February 1946 in association with the growing unrest in India when the British had started mass executions of the members of the Azad Hind Fauz, as reported in The Hindustan Times, 2 November 1945. From the initial flashpoint in Bombay, the mutiny spread and found support all over India, from Karachi to Calcutta and involved 78 ships, 20 shore establishments and 20,000 soldiers. Industrial workers in Bombay area joined in. In Madrasand Pune the British garrisons had to face revolts within the ranks of the Indian army.However, both the Congress and the Muslim League betrayed that revolt. Although both Gandhi and Jinnah condemned it, but it had a decisive role for the independence ofIndia by forcing the British to realize they cannot depend on the Indian in the army, navy or in the air force.

It is a common belief in India and in the Western world that Gandhi, through his non-violence Satyagraha has gave India independence from the British rule. The truth is somehow very different.

According to the British Prime Minister Clement Attlee, during whose regime India became free, the creation of the INA (Indian National Army) and mutiny the RIN (Royal Indian Navy) of February 18­23, 1946 made the British realise that their time was up in India. An extract from a letter written by P.V. Chuckraborty, former Chief Justice of Calcutta High Court, on March 30 1976, reads thus:

When I was acting as Governor of West Bengal in 1956, Lord Clement Attlee, who as the British Prime Minister in post war years was responsible for India's freedom, visited India and stayed in Raj Bhavan
Calcutta for two days. I put it straight to him like this: "The Quit India Movement of Gandhi practically died out long before 1947 and there was nothing in the Indian situation at that time which made it necessary for the British to leave India in a hurry. 

Why then did they do so? In reply Attlee cited several reasons, the most important of which were the INA activities of Netaji Subhas Chandra Bose, which weakened the very foundation of the British Empire in India, and the RIN Mutiny which made the British realize that the Indian armed forces could no longer be trusted to prop up the British. When asked about the extent to which the British decision to quit India was influenced by Mahatma Gandhi¹s 1942 movement, Attlee’s lips widened in smile of disdain and he uttered, slowly, “Minimal”.

To add on what P.V. Chuckraborty mention about Attlee In reply Attlee cited several reasons, another major reason was: Britain was in crisis after First World War with 900 million GBP in debt to US, his worldwide investments wiped out, cotton and coal export market was collapsed. That was the underlying reality for Britain and they could no longer afford to build the bases or ships to defend its empire as it had before 1914. 1929, it was Wall Street collapse and US stopped aid to Europe. Hitler came to the power in 1933 and he did the rest. Bose shook hands with Germans and Italian to overcome.

Lord Mountbatten had described India in 1946 as a burning ship in the mid-ocean.

Famous historian Ramesh Chadra Majumdar dismissed the contribution of Satyagraha to the eventual independence of India. He said, “The campaigns of Gandhi came to an ignoble end about fourteen years before India achieved independence. In particular, the revelations made by the INA trial, and the reaction it produced in India, made it quite plain to the British, already exhausted by the war, that they could no longer depend upon the loyalty of the sepoys for maintaining their authority in India. This had probably the greatest influence upon their final decision to quit India.
(Majumdar, R.C., Three Phases of Indias Struggle for Freedom, Bombay, Bharatiya Vidya Bhavan).

According to BBC history page which reads:
“But the greatest cloud on the horizon was Nazi Germany, which in 1938 seized Austria and Czechoslovakia. The late 1930s are often known as the 'age of appeasement', for Britain found any excuse not to fight a war, though it had reluctantly begun to re-arm.”
Also“It took World War Two and the Japanese take-over of Burma to extract Britain's assurance of post-war independence, failing which India threatened to welcome in Japanese troops to 'liberate' them.”
British were in no mood of leaving India till mid of 30’s as it was major economic resource for them and that’s why they build such a beautiful area in Delhi called them India Gate, Rastrapati and Sansad bhawan. Not for any Gandhi or Nehru. Nehru was already enjoying his life with English people.

Thus, one should not just believe in the official version of the recent Indian history, which has propagated that only Gandhi and Nehru through the Satyagraha has brought freedom to India. The reality is quite
different, but was hidden so far due the massive state power to advertise Satyagraha, which as a mass movement has failed everywhere whether in India or in South Africa.

FW: Non Biz | Club Mahindra Membership is - biggest Financial Mistake

One of the blogs I read regularly, had this article on Club Mahindra. Hence thought of sharing this is for the benefit of those who are contemplating to take this membership. You could read this blog and analyze before taking it.

- http://www.tflguide.com/2012/07/club-mahindra-membership-fees-review.html

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Club Mahindra Membership is my biggest Financial Mistake

by Hemant Beniwal

Upfront I am accepting that buying Club Mahindra Membership was my biggest financial mistake. Readers may be thinking “biggest is a comparative word – that means there must be few more”. Yes Why not. I am also a human and allowed to make some mistakes. Each day one takes 4-5 financial decisions and if not more, there is a fair chance that few of them will prove to be wrong. Sometime money involved can be small for eg going for new released movie. If your family likes the movie – than fine. But what if opposite happens? (If decision was wrong – cost Rs 1500-2000 if tickets bought in Royale or Rs 500-1000 if bought tickets for Executive class and additional loss of Rs 200-300 if buying Pepsi or eatables – even choosing large or small Pepsi is a financial decision – impact Rs 100 on budget)

Let me also share that one decision which is blunder for one person can be a small mistake for other & for third person it may also prove to be right – again financial planner’s favorite line “it depends on person to person”. So why I am saying Club Mahindra Membership is MY biggest mistake (in short) – because:

• Amount & time involved is huge.
• It doesn’t suite my type of person, who doesn’t want to sit & enjoy – I want to explore the places in & around the city that I am visiting.
• It was mis-sold – lots of things were hidden & misrepresented.
• I am frugal when it comes to food on a trip & they charge me bomb for that
• There is big difference between what Club Mahindra promise, what people expect & what they deliver.

Club Mahindra Holidays Membership Features

If you want to know about membership, quickly glance through the presentation. Its bit old but hardly there are some changes – one important change is now bookings can be made in 6 months advance. [Note: Its not lifetime its for 25 years - earlier it was for 33 years]

Please click on this link for the presentation - http://www.tflguide.com/2012/07/club-mahindra-membership-fees-review.html

Club Mahindra Membership Fees

Before looking at the Club Mahindra Holidays Membership Fees we have to understand – criteria on what this fee is based on.

First is type of Rooms

• Studio Apartment – is a room for 3 adults or 2 adults & 2 kids.
• 1 Bed Room (BR) – room for 4 adults
• 2 BR – room for 6 adults

Second is Type of Seasons

Club Mahindra has divided 52 weeks in 4 Seasons/Colors.  (Check Season chart here)

• Purple:  This is period like New Year, summer holidays or Diwali holidays.
• Red: Its second best category which covers all major long holidays & peak season for a particular location.
• White: Normal Season
• Blue: It’s off season

Membership is also divided in these categories where you can utilize holiday in your season or lower. So Purple Members can have holidays in any season but white can only go for White & Blue. Holiday in higher season is also possible but there are limitations like bookings can only be made 15 days in advance & you can jump only one season so White can think of going in red but not in purple.

Onetime Club Mahindra Membership Fees (2010-11)

No data is available about Club Mahindra Membership latest Fees. But in December 2011 I got a mail from them, which quoted these prices.

• Red Studio - Rs. 389855
• Purple Studio – Rs. 592908

Club Mahindra Membership Annual Subscription Fees (ASF)

Club Mahindra Claims their membership is Inflation Free but other than one time fees members have to pay annual subscription fees (irrespective of usage), depending on type of room they own. They charge ASF on type on rooms so Studio will pay lowest ASF & 2 Bed Room will pay highest. But at the time of booking you can choose any room so I am having Studio but can book 2 BR & pay 50% less ASF. (You people will be feeling pity about me & I am feeling same for people who have bought 1 BR & 2 BR) This fees is not fixed – it increase every year according to urban inflation numbers.

ASF Charges in 2010-11 (including service tax)

• Studio Rs 8,994
• 1 BR Rs 12,629
• 2 BR Rs 17,717

Club Mahindra Membership Cancellation Policy

They have a very transparent membership cancellation policy that there is 10 days free-look period – where the whole amount can be refunded but I was not allowed to use that. After 10 days you can cancel the membership but there will be no refund – sounds similar to our favorite endowment plans. But after that if you want you can sell your membership in open market – but there are no buyers. Check sites like Quikr or Olx and you will find lot of sellers but no buyers.

In last financial year there were 4000 membership cancellation – I assume that as they don’t have proper cancellation policy, these are the people who have not paid Annual Subscription Fees (ASF) & there membership was automatically cancelled.

44% members are not utilizing their holidays

Club Mahindra Holidays can advertise “Happy Families” but truth is 44% of members are not availing their holidays. Why?

First & biggest reason is there is a gap between number of members & inventory (number of units) available in the resorts.  They proudly say that there membership is increased by 26% Compounded annualized growth rate but their Inventory was not able to keep pace & just grown by 22%. Gap was 9% in 2005, which has now grown to 26%.  (You can check the below table – Club Mahindra Members Vs Inventory)

Second, Club Mahindra gives resorts on rental to nonmembers, even in the peak season. So members compete with nonmembers. There annual report show earning of Rs 15 Cr from rental they have received from nonmembers. If I assume Rs 4000 per night room rent – it turns to 3% of the total available inventory.

Third, when there is big gap in available inventory & some competition from nonmembers; few people will definitely be disappointed because they will not get what they desire. Club Mahindra expect that people should plan there holidays 6 months in advance – I think I can do it but it’s not possible for people who are in jobs. There annual report shows that occupancy was at 77% & if we adjust even 2% that was utilsed by nonmembers so member occupancy is at 75%. If we compare that with number of members, it turns out to be 44%. (check below graph – Club Mahindra Yearly Membership Unutilised)

I don’t think I again have to tell you that Club Mahindra charges Annual Subscription Fees (ASF) irrespective of you go for holidays or not. In addition they don’t allow members to accumulate more than 3 years (21 days) holidays. If member don’t pay ASF, his membership will seize.

My Story 

I am passionate about traveling – I bought Club Mahindra Red Studio in Feb 2008. Just after my sisters marriage we were having some cash in our account & coincidentally we were also planning to buy LCD TV. Then came THE SUNDAY & I saw advertisement in local newspaper, where Club Mahindra also shared about FREE Sony Bravia TV. My mind stopped working something similar to when people see emotional ads of child plans. I called up the number & executive reached my door step in 2 hours. In next 5 days we finished all formalities & were part of Club Mahindra roller coaster rides.

There are lot of bitter experience with Club Mahindra – starting from purchasing to doing bookings to services in resorts to checkouts but I must appreciate they have good properties.

My Mistakes – from which you should learn

They say “Learning from your mistakes is smart, learning from the mistakes of others is wise.” But learning from own mistake is really expensive….

I have not analysed my requirement: I am passionate about travelling but they have resorts at limited locations. When I go to some place I try to explore other good places which are close to that city – I don’t like sitting on pool side throughout the day. 31^st Dec 2010 I visited Jim Corbett – I had bookings for 4 nights. You won’t believe we spent very little time in resort – we were more interested in visiting Nanital & Ranikhet. Even we spent one night in some other hotel because we thought rather than going back to resort to sleep let’s directly go from Nanital to Ranikhet. : (

I have not researched the product before buying: I have not researched the product & matching it with my requirement. I believed on brand Mahindra, limited information that was shared by executive & my gut feeling. After buying the product I started searching about how existing members feel about it & I was shocked.  But that was too late.

I agreed for the things that were not documented – I was interested in Red Studio because that was most flexible in usage as I can go in Red, White or Blue & even purple if there is some chance in last 15 days (purple weeks were not available at that time for purchase). I can choose any type of room & that too with lower ASF.

But the executive said FREE TV is only available with 1 BR so first you buy White 1 BR & we can later convert it in Red Studio. It took me 7 months in conversion & that too after lot of threatening calls & what not.

There are lot more things to share about Club Mahindra Membership but I will try to share that in comment section. If you are member of any such time share resort or planning to buy one or approached by someone, please share your views in comment section.

A cold winter - A Share Market analogy !

It was autumn, and the Red Indians asked their New Chief if the winter was going to be cold or mild.

Since he was a Red Indian chief in a modern society, he couldn't tell what the weather was going to be.

Nevertheless, to be on the safe side, he replied to his Tribe that the winter was indeed going to be cold and that the members of the village should collect wood to be prepared.

But also being a practical leader, after several days he got an idea. He went to the phone booth, called the National Weather Service and asked 'Is the coming winter going to be cold?'

'It looks like this winter is going to be quite cold indeed,' the weather man responded.

So the Chief went back to his people and told them to collect even more wood. A week later, he called the National Weather Service again. 'Is it going to be a very cold winter?'

'Yes,' the man at National Weather Service again replied, 'It's definitely going to be a very cold winter.'

The Chief again went back to his people and ordered them to collect every scrap of wood they could find.


Two weeks later, he called the National Weather Service again.

'Are you absolutely sure that the winter is going to be very cold?'

'Absolutely,' The man replied. 'It's going to be one of the coldest winters ever.'

'How can you be so sure?' the Chief asked.

The weatherman replied, 'The Red Indians are collecting wood like crazy.'

This is how stock markets work!!!

Wooden Bowl

  A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.

  "We must do something about Grandfather," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor." So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.

There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometime he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

 Care and love your Parents as you would expect your children to love and care for you.

Remember, as you sow, so shall you reap, and regardless of your relationship with your Parents, you will miss them when they are gone.

The 4 Wives

Once upon a time there was a Prince who had four wives.

He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with expensive clothes, and treated her most delicately. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much. She was very beautiful and he always enjoyed showing her off to his friends, but was always afraid that she may run away with some other men.

He loved his 2nd wife too. She was very considerate and patient. Whenever he faced any problems, she would always help him out.

His 1st wife was very loyal and contributed a great deal towards his success and also took care of the household. However he never paid much attention to her although she loved him deeply.

One day he fell sick and was finally on his death-bed. He thought that although he had 4 wives but when he dies, he will be all alone. So he asked his 4th wife, ' I loved you the most, gave you the finest clothes and took great care of you. Now I am dying, will you follow me and keep me company.' The 4th wife replied 'No way" and walked off without any further word.

In came the 3rd wife and he asked her ' I loved you so much all my life. Now that I am dying, will you follow me and keep me company.' She also replied 'No way', and further remarked that life was so good that she would re-marry after he dies.

He then asked the 2nd wife, ' You always helped me with my problems, I need your help again for one last time. I am dying, will you follow me and keep me company.' The 2nd wife replied that I am sorry but this time I cannot help you, at the most I can go up to your grave.

Then he suddenly heard the voice of his 4th wife saying that I will go with you and keep you company. As he looked up he realized that she was so skinny as if due to malnutrition. He told her with great sorrow in his heart that I should have taken better care of you while I could have.

The fact is that we all have 4 wives in our lives.

The 4th wife is our body: No matter how much time and effort we devote in making it looking good, it will leave us when we die.

The 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth: When we die they all go to others.

The 2nd wife is our family and friends: No matter how close they had been to us when we were alive, the furthest they can go is up to the grave.

The 1st wife which we cannot see is our soul itself: We often neglect it in our pursuit of material wealth and sensual pleasures, but it is the only thing which follows us wherever we go. So it won't be a bad idea at all to cultivate and strengthen it now, taking better care of it while we can with good noble deeds, than to wait until we are on our death-bed!!!